Teen Relationships




TEEN DATING SAFETY
 

If you or someone you know is in an unhealthy relationship, or you would like to talk to someone about healthy versus unhealthy relationships, we're here to help! You can get in touch with a dating violence advocate by phone (24 hours a day) at 765-423-1118 or by email at jdowd@ywcalafayette.org.

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Local hotline 765-423-1118 or 1-888-345-1118 toll free

Staying safe whether you leave the relationship or not

We understand that leaving a relationship--especially an abusive one--can be extremely difficult. But whether you are ready to end the relationship or not, it is very important to have a safety plan just in case. Because everyone's circumstances are different, not all safety plans are one-size-fits-all. You can download a safety planning worksheet HERE that you can personalize to fit your situation. If you would like to talk with someone about your safety plan, feel free to contact us. 


What does an abusive relationship look like?

Here are a few of the behaviors that might be found in an abusive relationship.

Ways you can help a friend who is in an abusive relationship

If you have a friend who you suspect is in an abusive relationship, there are ways that you can help and support your friend. Because abuse can escalate quickly, the time to speak up is as soon as you notice any of the warning signs mentioned above. The most important thing to remember is to be patient with your friend. Just because he or she is not ready to admit there is a problem in the relationship doesn't mean that your kind words of concern aren't getting through. On average, people who get abused by someone they're dating try to end the relationship SEVEN times before leaving for good. By choosing to stick with your friend throughout the whole process you are ensuring that he/she will have someone they can trust and support when they need it most. Here are some of the things you can say to your friend:

                   • “I’m concerned for your safety.”

                  • “You don’t deserve to be treated this way.”

                  • “This isn’t how a normal, healthy relationship is supposed to be.”

                  • “This abuse is not your fault.”

                  • “Would you like me to go with you to talk to someone about what's going on?"

Be on the lookout for these warning signs
A relationship might be at risk for becoming abusive if one partner...
      1)  Has trouble controlling feelings like anger
      2)  Become violent in response to drugs or alcohol
      3)  Gets jealous for no reason
      4)  Prevents the other from spending time with friends or family
      5)  Says things like "I couldn't live without you" or "If I can't have you, no one can"


 Additional resources

www.loveisrespect.org

         This site has tons of great resources! For instance, you can take a quiz to see if you are in a health relationship. Or you can find out ways you can help a friend who is in an abusive relationship. You can even chat online with a peer advocate about issues related to healthy or unhealthy relationships.

 

www.centeronhalsted.org

         The Center on Halsted Anti-Violence Project provides support for LGBTQ youth who are the victim of any form of violence. You can also contact the center by calling their hotline at 773-871-2273.


 

 

 

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